Wedding Planning Lessons

This is an ongoing list of lessons I’ve learned about wedding planning to pass on to newly engaged brides-to-be.

  1. After becoming engaged, don’t worry about having all of the answers to all the questions you’ll be asked. Take your time to enjoy your new relationship status.
  2. Make sure there is a written contract with any vendor you may book and make sure you understand what you are agreeing to and that details are correct.
  3. Don’t become overwhelmed by the wedding industry’s pressures of having a “perfect wedding.”  Wedding websites, magazines and Pinterest may make you feel that you must have certain things to make it perfect but don’t fall into traps that can lead you to go over budget or over stress the smallest of details.
  4. Make a budget before you do anything else. The budget will dictate everything from the guest list to the wedding dress.  Do not try on dresses, look at venues, etc. that are over your budget.  The heartache you may feel by ignoring your budget is pretty terrible.
  5. When working on your guest list, keep hard paper copies of all of your lists. Don’t just trust a wedding website guest list manager and always have backup copies.
  6. Be open-minded to trying on different styles of wedding dresses. I would not recommend bringing large entourages with you to bridal dress shopping appointments; bring one or two people whose opinions you value most, but the most important opinion is yours.
  7. Building a wedding website doesn’t have to be a tedious task, just keep it simple.
  8. Don’t be afraid to work ahead on wedding planning when using a wedding planning check list. I have found getting small items accomplished means less to worry about later.
  9. Vendor research is your friend.  Read online reviews, ask friends and family and get samples/examples of a vendor’s work before making decisions.
  10. Trust your wedding photographer.
  11. Want to make your wedding special and unique? Pinterest is cool but I recommend to think about personal touches that represent you as a couple when thinking about decorations and themes.
  12. Sample your wedding cake and food, because no one wants to eat bad wedding cake.
  13. Make sure there’s enough postage to mail your wedding invitations by taking a fully assembled invitation to the post office and ask them to weigh it.